How to deal with a coworker who is crying at work

How to deal with a coworker who is crying at workHow to deal with a coworker who is crying at workWhile everyone from Sheryl Sandberg to Steve Jobs has cried at work, its an entirely different situation when you see someone you work with shed tears.So how do you let them know they arent being ignored without encroaching on their personal space? herbeie are a few tips to consider, depending on the situation.When you hear someone crying at their deskThis could be helpful when this happens close to your own desk.L.V. Anderson, former Slate associate editor (now at Digg), features insight from Lily Newman, a former technology reporter for the publication (currently at WIRED), on the site.Newman talks about her experience crying on the job. Her suggestion is featured later in the piecePeople with tears streaming down their faces might not want to get into conversations- but they might feel even worse knowing that everyone can see them crying but is choosing to ignore them. Newman suggests using a chat program to check in with a silently crying colleague in a low-pressure way. Its easier to type than to talk when youre crying, and pinging colleagues online will open the door for them to assure you everythings fine, tell you that they dont want to talk about it, or spill their guts. (If youre not close enough with your colleagues that you chat with them regularly, then youre probably not close enough to inquire into the reasons for their tears.)When an employee cries in front of the entire teamJennifer DeRome (formerly Jennifer Winter), a content strategist, writer, and relationship manager, writes in The Museabout dealing with crying employees as a manager and suggests that you change the scenery when this happensHaving an employee cry in front of the whole team isnt good for the group, and obviously, isnt good for the employee. So, at the first sign of trouble, its a great idea to guide that person to a more private area. A spare office or conference room works grea t, but avoid the bathroom at all costs if you plan on having any sort of discussion with your employee. Its fine if she needs to compose herself, but save the talking for a more professional atmosphere that doesnt involve an echo and running water.When an employee cries over something job-relatedIt happens.Anne Kreamer, author of Its Always Personal Emotion in the New Workplace, tells the Harvard Business Reviewabout how managers can zero in on the work issues when an employee criesThe fruchtwein helpful thing you can do is listen and try to help them solve their work-related concernsIn the most extreme case, it could be necessary to suggest a leave of absence and bring in temporary help.

Your office temperature doesnt have to be miserable

Your office temperature doesnt have to be miserableYour office temperature doesnt have to be miserableDont you dreadwalking into workon a Monday morning, still groggy from a long weekend, only to get hit in the face with your usual mountain of workand schwer zu ertragen cold room temperatureson top of all that?The way most building temperatures are regulated is based on an old model based on the metabolic satzs of the averagemale, according toa 2015 study published in the journal Nature Climate Change.But some companiesare giving employees more individual controlover how cool or warm they want to be whilemanaging their work.Luckily some offices are offering solutions to this age-old problem.Where gender comes inIf youre shivering at your desk, the temperature may not actually be adjusted to your gender.You read that right the office thermostat wars are actually backed by science.A 2015 study published in the journal Nature Climate Changesays thatthe way most building temperatures are regulated is based on an empirical thermal comfort model that was developed in the 1960s, according to ASHRAE.This model isnt just outdated, and apparently it alsodoesnt apply to everyone.The same 2015 study also says this in terms of the modelStandard values for one of its primary variables- metabolic rate- are based on an average male, and may overestimate female metabolic rate by up to 35% - average male in this case meaning a 40-year-old man weighing 70 kg, according to an article in the Journal of Applied Psychology.What that means offices are not currently built for women, who give off more heat and tend to be colder as a result.So if your office tends to keep things really cold, you should know that reportedly, theres an optimal temperature for getting things done- also according to science.The perfect office temperature existsA 2006 study from researchers at the Helsinki University of Technology and the Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory found that when temperature is up to 21-22 degrees Celsius, the level of performance goes up, and when the temperature is higher than 23-24 degrees Celsius, the level of performance goes down.The study also found that the highest productivity is at temperature of around 22 degrees Celsius, which is about 72 degrees Fahrenheit.TemperatureSome institutions rely on personalization to keep employees comfortable.The headquarters for the Agnelli Foundation in Turin, Italy is reportedly being revamped with a game-changing feature thermal bubbles that stick with employees wherever they go while at the office, according to the Wall Street Journal.Carlo Ratti, who leads the architecture company that ismaking changes to the office space, told the Wall Street Journalabout the new technology the building will have thousands of sensors with the power to change the lighting and temperature. On an app, workers set the temperatures they want, and just like magic, their phones can control heating and cooling systems in the ceiling . If someone leaves an area, the systems switch back to standby mode, Ratti said to the Wall Street Journal.So, what happens when one employee thinks its too hot, and the other nearby thinks its too cold? The system will reportedly find a happy medium by averaging the temperatures.Our aim is to shift the focus from heating or cooling spaces, to heating or cooling people and the space they are occupying,Ratti told the Wall Street Journal.Another technology is changing the way people who work in traditional office spaces with chairs and desks operate, and aims to increase energy efficiency.Enter the Hyperchair.In addition to Wi-Fi and sensors, the desk chair has heating and cooling units inside- the temperature can be adjusted on the chair, or using a smartphone.The chair also communicates with the building, according to Fast Company.There might be a surge in electric prices on a hot afternoon, and so it sends the signal, Hey, lets use the chairs more today because were going to turn down the air-conditioning unit, Peter Rumsey, CEO of Hyperchair, told Fast Company. If you dont have access to a Hyperchair, you could always try agood-old blanket, but with a twist.The USB Heated Shawl and Lap Blanketwarms you up when you plugit into a USB port, and reportedly has a button to keep it from falling off of you as you work.But if if thats not your style, you could try something smaller towarm up your cold hands as you type.The company Smoko makestoast-shaped USB wired hand warmers, which gets your hands toasty when you plug them in.Whether its either too cold, too hot, or feels just right, technology is paving the waytoward better days at work.But while were not all lucky enough to have control the temperature and lighting in the spaces we work in, we can hope that one day, new technologies like this go mainstream. Until then, we can dream.

The one question we should all ask ourselves at the end of the day

The one question we should all ask urselves at the end of the dayThe one question we should all ask ourselves at the end of the dayJosh Davis, Ph.D. is the author of the international bestseller, Two Awesome Hours Science-Based Strategies to Harness Your Best Time and Get Your Most Important Work Done, and he serves on the faculty of the Department of Psychology at Barnard College of Columbia University. He recently spoke with Caroline Webb, CEO of Sevenshift and author of How to Have a Good Day, about how to use small amounts of time for large advances in productivity.Caroline Were here to talk about our how to be at our best, and specifically, how to be at our best in small amounts of time. I wrote a book, How to Have a Good Day. You wrote a book that welches even more focused on a smaller amount of time - two hours. Why is it that you were so attracted to such a small amount of time?Josh We can be amazingly productive for a half hour, two hours, three hours - where youre just hi tting everything out of the park, figuring out exactly who needs to be on your team, how youre going to get this project done and so on. And then, because youve been so productive, you can be worthless for three days in a row.I have that issue. If that can happen, there must be things that we can learn about setting up those brief times when we can really be at our best. The reason why I focus on two hours is because most people, upon recognizing a few of these different ways of thinking or operating, can have two awesome hours in a day. Its a reasonable and achievable thing that can make a very big difference.The way we spend our days is the way we spend our livesCaroline Its interesting that we both chose small amounts of time where there are so many books out there about a broader span of things as they relate to your career. The first few years of my work as a management consultant, I was focusing on large-scale change huge changes in the company level, organizational level, cul tural transformation or in-performance turnaround. Often the goals were very lofty, they would try and fix morale in this whole organization and boost collaboration or innovation, things like that.And so often, my work ended up coming down to the small stuff, the everyday things. In buchen to make these big goals happen for real, you needed to think about how you set up meetings, how you handle it when things go wrong, what you do when someone makes a mistake.Over time, I found I was getting to a smaller and smaller scale, and thats what made me interested. And then, as I departureed to think about the idea of a day being a building block of life, there was this quiet book that came into my field of vision, Annie Dillards The Writing Life. She said, The way we spend our days is the way we spend our lives.You need to think about how you set up meetingsJosh When you do work with an organization or an individual, youre thinking about long-term - in order to innovate, we need to have t hese kinds of priorities, think in these ways, these are going to be the challenges, etc. People understand it. They get behind it and then it doesnt happen.If you start looking at your behaviors every day, thats where you can find a lot of ways in which we get diverted or fall back into the old way of doing things.Caroline You talk about these decision points in your day and that theyre often when things go wrong. Could you say a bit more about that?Josh One of the things thats really core is focusing on whats important, leid whats urgent. Its not so much a challenge, really, to know whats important. But when I sit down to work, Ive got a million things where Im just being reactive. Were on autopilot most of the time.Autopilot is very complex - its not just about breathing, or lifting up a fork. Its being an expert at running a meeting, at thinking up branding strategies. Over time, expertise means it becomes more automatic. We dont have to think as deeply. We can recognize patter ns and just go with those. Once you get into that, were not as aware of all the other things that are going on. Time slips by, and you start checking email or reading the paper. As you get into those autopilot modes, its very hard to just willfully stop yourself.There are a few moments in the day, though, when autopilot turns off and we can learn to capture these moments and make them decision points. So autopilot turns off, essentially, when we come to a crossroads. Some researchers believe that the purpose of consciousness is to make a decision when autopilot cant handle it.Caroline The master idea behind that is that the currency of your days is where you choose to put your attention. We can be absolutely on autopilot the whole time on that front, if were not careful.One thing that you write about, and that I care about deeply as well, is the idea of being intentional. Thinking, What is it that really deserves most of my attention today? And then within a conversation, or a meeti ng, What is it that I want to most look out for? Knowing that if you dont contemplate that, your attention will go wherever your autopilot decides you should go, and thats not necessarily where you want it to go.Stating of intentions is such an interesting thing, because it can take only a few seconds but it can really change the way that you are making decisions in the moment. What are your tricks for making sure that when you come to those decision points, your attention is top of line?There are moments where autopilot turns offJosh An in-the-moment trick, when you just find yourself all of a sudden with a decision point, is to literally stand up. If you physically step back until youre able to remember what is really important, you can choose to start. When you start on the right thing, you can finish the day doing the right thing.Caroline I love the idea of standing up because when I do that, it does really help to refocus your attention on what you really care about. It is a re set, a physical reset. I also find it helpful to ask the question, when I get to the end of day, What will I be delighted that Ive achieved or annoyed with myself that Ive not achieved?I often have a single Post-it note. Yesterday, my mind was getting distracted in exactly the way you just described, and I was getting annoyed with it. So I wrote on a Post-it note, in huge capital letters, the thing that I needed to do next and I put it in the middle of my screen so that I couldnt look around it. I had to stay focused on it. Weve only got a small amount of conscious attention, and we need to spend that wisely.The currency of your days is where you choose to put your attentionJosh Another thing I like to do during these decision points is to check in with myself. To ask not whats most important, but evaluate my mental energy. Am I depleted or not? I know thats something youve written about quite a bit as well.Caroline A lot of what were talking about here is self-awareness and startin g to notice where your mind and body are when youre really, really busy. To actually notice, Im finding it harder to concentrate than I was an hour ago. My mind is scattered, or Im having decision fatigue. And then the saatkorn physically - start to be more aware of the fact that you havent moved in a while or had a glass of water.Josh I think one of the important findings from research is that we are not at our best all the time. Thats actually something useful that you can take advantage of. It means that strategically, it would make a lot of sense to think about whats most important, what do I really want to show up for? How can I be at my best for that? Because were not at our best at all times, we can learn to be more at our best more often.You mentioned being aware of decision fatigue - I find, at least for myself, that when Im on autopilot, its actually hard for me to know that. If Im just sitting there, Im feeling like I can keep going. But if I actually get interrupted, a nd then step out and go get a glass of water, I realize, I am actually not thinking that clearly and am not at my best. Or Yeah, Im really good right now.We can learn to be more at our best more oftenCaroline I often set myself a timer to make sure that I dont get lost in what Im doing, and that I do stand up and stretch or go for a walk. Sometimes I set it for short periods of time if I notice that its really hard for me to concentrate and I just to need to figure out a way to single-task, rather than multi-task.The other thing that Im a groupie of is zoning and batching. For zoning, there is some time in the day that you know that you are intellectually at your peak. Its really great if, over time, you can start to chisel away at your calendar. It doesnt work initially if youve got a lot of other people determining what happens in your day. But over time you can start to get a little bolder about protecting that time, if you know that that is the time that you do your best thinkin g.For me, that has always been the late afternoon. The evidence on average, will tend to say you should do it in the morning. For me, thats not the case. But the point is to know what your self-limit is. And then to collect together different chunks of time, so youre not asking your brain to switch modes too much. Gather email together a couple of times a day, as you say. Be clear when you want to push through a bunch of calls. I have a particular time of day when I tend to meet people for coffee if Im going to have networking chats.Josh For me, it was a much more sudden transformation that came about as a result of doing the research for the book. I shifted the order of things and noticed I was able to be present for the things that mattered and ended up spending a lot less time working overall.You mentioned connecting networking energizes you. Now, some people find that energizing, some people find that draining. Everyone is different - I love being on stage and presenting. Knowi ng which things are going to give you energy and which things are going to drain you is also useful for that planning.Sometimes we have freedom to choose when we do things, but sometimes we dont. When you dont, there is a reset button, which is simply 20 minutes of moderate exercise.End the day by looking back and saying, What was good about the day?Caroline Absolutely. Its the reliable boost in focus and mood, and it happens so quickly. The other thing - which I was really skeptical of initially - was the nap, the 20-minute nap. Not everybody has the opportunity to take one in the middle of the day, but naps help particularly with the attentional piece of things.If you think about your own day, what is the one thing that you do every day to help keep you at your best?Josh Im really fighting between two things, both of which I have mentioned already. One of them is exercise as a strategic tool. It is so powerful and so reliable that it would just be crazy not to use it.The other o ne is to think about, What is important for me today or this week? and then to really build around that. What about for you?Caroline One thing that has really made a difference for me is to end the day by looking back and saying, What was good about the day? Its a question of deciding where you put your attention. We have some choice on what we choose to remember. Deciding to end the day by directing attention to what was good will set off the next day positively. I think its made me a happier creature.This article originally appeared on Heleo.